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« on: June 30, 2012, 01:57:08 PM »

Kino can appear somewhat of an enigma to the aspiring player but as you'll soon learn there's nothing difficult about it. People with rapport kino each other all the time. It's a completely normal, naturally occurring thing.

The purpose of kino is to allow you & the object of your affection to become comfortable physically contacting (touching) one another. It's also a way of easing into someone's personal space. If one escalates kino in a gradual manner neither of you will feel like you're taking big steps. You'll benefit from this as much as she will.

Do's, dont's & related facts:

- Kino is comfort building. It's not a sexual act.
- Kino everyone, guys & girls! Don't be the creep who only touches that one girl.
- Start kino immediately. Yep, the sooner the better. The longer you wait the more unnatural it will feel once you start.
- Only kino for a second or two at a time till you've learned how long is safe. A lingering hand can make someone uncomfortable.
- Between the elbow & shoulder on the forearm is one of many areas that aid comfort. You're strengthening your bond touching someone there.
- Use kino to reinforce positive statements such as 'well done' or 'It's great to see you'. At a psychological level this associates your touch with positive emotions.

Accept that its going to feel forced at first but it won't take long to become second nature. You'll know you're doing it right when you meet a woman for the first time, start kino & she responds by kinoing you back. Thats an IOI btw Cool
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« Reply #1 on: July 16, 2012, 04:09:26 AM »

- Kino everyone, guys & girls! Don't be the creep who only touches that one girl.

Why would you want to kino everyone though? Surely, if you kino only that one girl then it's a statement of intent to her that you're obviously flirting with her. Is that too direct and creepy in your opinion?
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« Reply #2 on: July 16, 2012, 12:51:47 PM »

- Kino everyone, guys & girls! Don't be the creep who only touches that one girl.

Why would you want to kino everyone though? Surely, if you kino only that one girl then it's a statement of intent to her that you're obviously flirting with her. Is that too direct and creepy in your opinion?

Kino is a natural way of building comfort. It isn't something that was just invented for pick up & shouldn't be viewed as a tool just to bust out on a target. Nor is it something that should be done purely as a way of stating intent. If it does aid in stating intent that's because everything else about you is sub-communicating intent to her. She should feel your intent without you touching her at all.

Don't confuse kino with physical flirting either. They're both quite different from each other. Poking a girl in the side in a flirtatious manner creates sexual tension - putting your hand on the small of her back creates comfort.

The reason you kino everyone is because you want everyone to feel comfortable in your presence. Just like improving your conversation skills its something that will benefit all your interactions. When learning this is important in order for it to become a natural thing for you to do. You need to get passed the initial forced/weirdness so when you do it to a woman it doesn't feel weird to her.

In set you kino everyone so the entire group accepts that's the kind of person you are. This means once you start focusing on touching the woman you're after no alarm bells go off & neither her or her friends think anything of it.
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