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Craig's Method...The Natural Way

One of the main reasons why I succeed in bars and most go home alone is because
I have a system, one that has taken me years to perfect.  When I was first
starting out in the game? I tried all kinds of crazy things to meet women, from
giving them business cards to doing card tricks, even trying to hypnotize them!
I had a few successes here and there, but what always bothered me was that the
techniques just didn?t seem natural?Not to mention the fact that when I ran out
of lines I would get run over.  I knew there were guys out there who got hoards
of women without even trying, and that was my ultimate goal.

A few years ago I had a major realization and I started pulling women like
crazy.  It came at a very frustrating time in my life, when I was about to
throw in the towel and give up on being the guy who has women all over him. 

My major turning point came when I decided to throw all I thought I knew about
meeting women in the trash.  I was so frustrated with the rejections and my
weak successes that I decided I was just going to go out and have a FUCKING
AWESOME TIME!  I decided that if I didn?t come home with anybody it wouldn?t
matter anymore, because I would have a blast, and make everyone in the bar have
a better night because I was there!

I didn?t get laid that first night, but I met more girls than I ever had before
and I could not believe the positive responses I was getting.  Girls were
picking up on the vibe that I was only there to have a good time, and I was
having such a blast that it was contagious!  Girls that I talked to early in
the night were coming back up to me and striking up conversations! 

Its been many years since I first started on my path to mastery, and these days
whenever I go out, I meet a lot of women, whether I want to or not!  When I set
out to write this book I took a hard look at what I do now compared to what I
did then, and hopefully what I?ve found will help you to reach your goals
faster than I did.

As you know my goal has always been to become a natural seducer, and when I was
starting out I tried to watch the guys that got a lot of women in the clubs and
learn from them.  The problem was that I couldn?t for the life of me figure out
what they were doing that was so different.  They usually weren?t the
best-dressed guys in the house, and almost never the best looking. 

It didn?t hit me until I started picking up all kinds of women that there was a
distinct format to my style, and that format is the foundation of my success. 
There are dozens of little things I do to enhance my game, but they alone do
not get me laid.  You have to bake the cake before you can put on the icing! 


The Circle Format

One thing I noticed when I first started doing this is that losers the in a
club would stand around and drink and watch, while guys with game would walk
around and make things happen.  The guys with lots of game would be sitting at
a table with different beautiful women around them all night like they were
famous.  That is where I wanted to be, and I discovered that you have to put a
lot of walking and talking to get to there. 

The thing I like about most clubs and bars is that they are built in a way that
creates a good flow around the inside, and you can usually walk around the
whole place in a big circle without having to backtrack.  Walking around the
club in big circles is the basis of my format, and it?s what you DO when you
are walking around that makes all of the difference. 

When you first arrive at a venue you have to set a presence for yourself, and
it?s important to get in the right state of mind before you walk in.  Think of
yourself as the owner of the club, because tonight, the place is yours!  Say it
aloud!  Whenever I walk through the doors of a club, I stop, look around, and
say ?MY HOUSE!? 

After you are inside and you check you coat, get your drink, etc., start your
walk around the club.  When you see a girl or group of girls you want to meet,
go in and say something funny or interesting that isn?t something they have
already heard ten times that night. 

An example conversation could go like this:

Me:  (serious look) ?Hey?Are you guys going to like me better the 3rd time you
see me??

Girls: ?Huh?What do you mean??

Me:  ?Well I?ve already walked past you guys twice and you guys haven?t said
?hi? to me or ?hello? or grabbed my ass or anything!  What?s goin on??

Girls:  (laughing) ?Hi my name?s Jen, and this is Carrie.  What?s yours??

Me:  ?Craig.  Nice to meet you.  Now, next time I see you all I?m going to
expect a warm welcome!? 

Here comes the MOST powerful part of this technique?After you exchange a few
laughs?MOVE ON OUT!   This is huge because every other guy they have ever met
has leached on at the first sign of acceptance and tried to hang out with them
all night!  How desperate is that?  By ending the conversation first you have
shown them that you are a secure guy who doesn?t care if he sees them again, or
if they talk to other guys.  And why should you?  You have many more groups of
women to approach!

The whole idea here is to get them laughing, show them you are a fun guy that
they would want to hang out with, then leave?with them wanting more!  In sales
this is called a takeaway.     

Do the same thing with the next group.  If a girl is by herself don?t leave her
out of the loop, but don?t use that as an excuse to latch on.  If a
conversation is going really well with a certain group or girl, it is ok to
keep it up, just make sure that you are the one to end it and that you end it
while both of you are still laughing and having fun. 

This structure eliminates a lot of mistakes and conveys a lot of important
things.  Lets take a look at what?s going on here, and why this works:   

?   You are showing every woman you meet that you are a fun guy with a great
personality. 

?   Since you are only talking to each group for a short time and you are the one
that is ending the conversation, you show them that you aren?t desperate for
their attention and you create a challenge.  You leave them wanting more!   

?   You will be seen talking to lots of women, which will make you look desirable
and create competition.  This is known as ?Social Proof?, and creates a
presence with everyone around you. 

?   You are creating a familiarity with these women, so the next time you see
them, it?s like you are old buds!  The hardest part is behind you! 

Best of all, this format allows you to meet tons of women while naturally
walking around the club having fun.  You are going to have a GREAT time and
meet LOTS of people! 

I relate this structure to fishing, because it reminds me a TV special I saw
once on sharks.  When scientists want to catch some sharks to study, they dump
a bunch of blood and fish guts in the water to get them all riled up.  There?s
no real meat in there, but it lets the sharks know that there is something
around, and it gets them alert and looking for food.   

This is what you?re doing with your initial approach and takeaway.  You are
letting the girls know you?re in the house and that you are different from the
rest of the guys, and you keep them wanting more.  I think they said it best in
the movie ?Swingers?.  It?s all about letting the girls know that you?re money
and you?re ready to party!           


Starting the Frenzy

By the time you are finished with lap number one you will probably have talked
to 10-20 girls, some alone and some in groups.  There is no set time frame for
how long this should take, because every club is different and some
conversations will last longer than others.  Sometimes I will finish my first
lap without doing any approaches because there are no hot women in the bar.  In
those cases the first lap is usually my last!   

On your second go-round you are going to see a few or all of the girls you met
on the first pass, depending on the size of the club.  Of course some of them
will be in the bathroom, on the dance floor, gone home, etc., but new girls are
always emerging to take their places.  Don?t get lazy and leave them out of the
fun!

The girls that you are seeing for the second time already have a good
impression of you, and now they?ve seen you talking with lots of other women,
so they view you not only as ok to be seen with, but also as desirable to the
opposite sex.  I don?t need to tell you that this is a good thing!     

Now that you have gotten things brewing, it?s time to pull out the bait and see
if she grabs it!  Your bait is what you do when you see a girl or group of
women you have already approached.  The goal here is to have a conversation
start naturally, like it would if you had met them before. 

Your bait can be the same type of thing you did the first time (Eg. Get her
laughing with a joke about something in the club, tell a short funny story, ask
her a question, etc.) or something on a smaller scale, like a look and a smile.
Other things you could do would be to give her a high five, touch her glass
with yours as you walk by and say ?cheers?, or my personal favorite, and accuse
her of following you, and tell her to stop!   

From now on every time you see her throw her some kind of bait and see if she
grabs on to it.  By throwing the bait you are giving her an easy way to start
talking to you, and that is what you are waiting for.  For instance, if you
make a joke, see if she makes a funny comment back.  If you touch her glass and
say ?cheers?, she might ask you what you?re drinking.  She may say something
unrelated to your bait, like ?Nice necklace? or ?Where did you get that ring??
If she asks you a question it?s always a good sign.  One that I here all of the
time is, ?You look familiar?Where do I know you from??  To this I answer, ?Do
you watch adult movies?? 

If she doesn?t take the bait keep on walking!  Some girls will take the bait
right away and a conversation will start naturally, and other conversations
might not happen until you have seen them 5 or 6 six times.  That?s a good
thing, because every time you see her you are reminding her about you and
building anticipation.

The most important thing you are doing here that most guys miss is that you are
setting yourself up as a challenge.  People don?t value what they don?t have to
work for, and to most women, especially attractive women, men are too easy! 

Imagine if you were a beautiful woman, and you had guys kissing your ass and
begging to be with you your entire life.  It gets old fast, and when a woman
like this meets a man who doesn?t put her on a pedestal and makes her chase
after him, it drives her crazy! 

Every woman loves a challenge, and this will separate you from 99% of the guys
out there.  Ask a few girls you know about this, and ask them to describe how a
man can be a challenge to them.  You will gain some really valuable insight. 

The familiarity that this method creates is one of the reasons why it is so
effective.  If you do your job on the first contact with a new girl, or group
of girls, the next time you see them they will remember you and all of their
walls will have come down.

This plays a HUGE part when you are dealing with groups, because when women go
out they will naturally try to keep their friends together and keep them from
getting hit on.  If you approach the group as a whole a few times and show them
what type of person you are, it will make it much easier to isolate your target
when that time comes.  Instead of the girls being cautious about their friend
leaving, they will be jealous! 


Reeling in the Fish

After a few rounds in the club you are probably going to have a one or two
women that you have a really good feeling about.  Maybe the two of you had a
great conversation, maybe she  ?accidentally? touched your arm a few too many
times, or maybe she is just the hottest woman you?ve talked to all night.
Either way, it?s time to close the deal!

Now that you have it narrowed down it?s ok to seek your woman out, and the
sooner the better.  Make sure you stick with the bait formula.  When you find
her say something funny, ask her a question, or make a comment about something
to give her the opportunity to start a conversation.

If she?s with her group of friends, it?s time to isolate her and make your
move!  You don?t have to take her away from her friends completely, but it is
important to get into a one-on-one conversation with her. 

Remember, the main reason her friends may try to ?cockblock? is because they
aren?t sure if their friend is into you and they want to ?save? her.  Hopefully
when you were making your rounds you talked to the group as a whole, or they at
least saw their friend give you a positive reaction.  This familiarity will
give you a big advantage. 

To be continued...         

 





Ending Conversations

It?s always good to end a conversation first, and a great way to do it is to
say, ?Hey it was nice meeting you?I?m gonna catch up with my friends.  Maybe
I?ll see you later?. 

Saying ?maybe? is very important.  It shows that you don?t care if you do see
her again, and it leaves her wondering if you will.  If you say, ?I?ll catch up
with you later? she knows that she is gonna see you again and it removes part
of the mystery and the challenge that women need to feel attraction.   











On Group Approaches and Cock Blocks

If a girl is with her friends but they are out of earshot or already talking to
others, it is ok to single her out and talk to her by herself.  If her friends
come back and interrupt don?t worry about it?It?s their job to watch out for
their friend.  Think nothing of it and include her friends in the conversation. 

If one of her friends completely captures her attention for more than a few
seconds, don?t stand around like a puppy!  If you were just throwing a little
bait and the two of you hadn?t really started talking yet, keep right on
walking without saying anything.  If the conversation was flowing nicely you
can do one of two things. 

Your first option is to end the conversation as you normally would, but shorten
it to, ?Maybe I?ll see you later? and walk away.  If it?s really on or it?s
getting late and your not sure if you will see her again, turn away at least 90
degrees and do something.  Light a smoke, order a drink, check your phone, etc,
and wait for HER to come back to YOU.  If she doesn?t come back, either start
talking to someone else or walk away.  When you see her again she will respect
you for being your own person and not waiting around like a chump.     






On-Going Cycle

The nice thing about this cycle is that it doesn?t limit itself to one night,
because you are always meeting new girls and throwing bait to old ones.  I used
to live in a smaller town with only 3 bars, and at the end of every night there
would be certain girls that I had talked too only once and others that I had
talked too 3 or 4 times a night for months. 

Some of the girls would come around eventually and we would end up hooking up,
while others became great bar buddies that would introduce me to their cute
girlfriends!  Damn I love this stuff! 

When I moved to a bigger city I thought it would be different since there are
literally hundreds of bars here, but I learned that every town has it?s own bar
scene and you will always run into a lot of the same people.  The cycle
continues!   











The Natural Way

When I go out to a club I look like a normal, social guy that happens to get a
lot of women.  No one would ever label me a ?Lounge Lizard? or a ?Pimp?,
because to the untrained eye and the women around, it appears as though I am
just hanging out like everyone else, and having a little bit more fun.  This is
very important because if a woman thinks you are a pick up artist and you do
this all the time, you will have to work ten times harder to make it happen. 

I have a friend that I go out clubbing with all of the time, but we never
really talk about techniques since we have very different styles.  He overheard
me explaining this method to someone and said, ?You mean you are actually doing
something when you are walking around like that??  And I hit the town with this
guy all the time!

This format is designed to be a natural way to meet women.  If you want to grab
a drink or have a smoke along the way, feel free.  You are there to have a
great time!  If you run into some of your buddies, by all means stay and have a
beer.  If you run into some girls that you know, stay and chat longer because
the other girls in the club will see you (social proof) and your girlfriends
may know some cuties that you should meet!
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« Reply #1 on: February 07, 2007, 10:22:08 PM »

Could you please post where this was?
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« Reply #2 on: February 08, 2007, 05:47:00 AM »

Could you please post where this was?
Don't know exactly where moxy got it from, but here is another place it is online: http://attraction-chronicles.blogspot.com/2006/11/definitive-guide-to-natural-barclub.html

Also: http://www.theseductionbible.com/2006/11/20/the-definative-barclub-game/
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