Here's a clip from the RSD blog
Learning "natural" game is basically just learning to approach with that same total CONFIDENCE and ANTICIPATION OF FRIENDLINESS that you had when you're telling a great story, but instead of anticipating a great response for the great story, you anticipate a great response for YOU.
This is almost like a girl's frame --> also a lot like a child's frame.
One of the clues for me was when Neil Strauss said that Tommy Lee approaches people like a "big happy baby."
I thought that was a great line and I've fully adopted it. I just approach sort of in the role that I'm a big happy baby, never wounded, never have had a problem in life --> and as my buddy Ariel said, feeling CONNECTED to the world rather than disconnected and having to be above or below it.
It's funny, but the fact you're able to come from that place of security winds up sub-communicating a lot about you -- maybe as much as being the "leader of men" or whatever.
I still think you've got to be the man and be the shit, but I also think that for guys who?ve taken on those behaviours for a few months that it?s so internalized that doing it consciously at this point is just try-hard.
There is no way we could ever go back to acting like chodes so any effort to the contrary is really wasted energy.